tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3474956079411071497.post43029132378649104..comments2023-12-29T15:59:24.032-08:00Comments on Life, Unexpectedly: The 21st Century DadStephanie @ Life, Unexpectedlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11787379336749043051noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3474956079411071497.post-62736416236161488732010-05-25T23:08:14.782-07:002010-05-25T23:08:14.782-07:00I think it's improtant to remember that every ...I think it's improtant to remember that every generation has it's norms and what is considered revolutionary in one generation is often commonplace in the next. Yea for those who look outside the box and find the best option for themselves and thier kids. Richard has always struck me as someone who has found his best and highest calling in being a father. His years as being a full time at home parent are building a fantastic foundation for his kids. I look forward to seeing the girls grow up to be happy, mature women with music and imagination never far from thier hearts,tempered with the rock solid ability to think for themselves. I only wish all kids could have a dad like him!Cat Crawfordnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3474956079411071497.post-21593437325501997692010-05-25T13:00:21.257-07:002010-05-25T13:00:21.257-07:00Thank you so much for this insightful perspective!...Thank you so much for this insightful perspective! I also had to learn to let go and accept that my husband's parenting style might differ from mine in certain aspects, even though we definitely are on the same page on the major points. <br /><br />I totally agree with you that traditions change, which is often a good thing.<br /><br />PS: my mom still uses real candles on her Christmas tree and always has :-)Stephanie @ Life, Unexpectedlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11787379336749043051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3474956079411071497.post-48454686996693082072010-05-25T07:13:49.587-07:002010-05-25T07:13:49.587-07:00GREAT post. It struck me in a couple of ways. &quo...GREAT post. It struck me in a couple of ways. "Traditional" is such an elusive word, because a tradition is merely one thing that someone did, and it got repeated and repeated. But they change (ie. do we still use real candles on christmas trees?). I grew up with a mom who was single for many years. After re-married and having my younger sibs, she continued to work. During WWII, her mother began working (like many), and then mom did. A working mom was "my tradition." It's all relative (no pun intended).<br /><br />My husband is quite older than me (40 & 63). He semi-retired 2 years ago, and moved his office to the house. Now when the kids get home from school, he is there with them vs. me racing to aftercare at end of day. My bigger challenge has been "letting go." I have to understand that him not scrutinizing homework like I do is ok. And by 6th grade, he thinks my son should learn consequences of skipping assignments. Now, seeing the positive result I agree. I have to keep frustration in check when he takes them to QuikChek and they get Doritos as after school snack, because most days he gives them a healthy snack. He was a diff generation, and SAHM was def more common, but the older generations were not hover parents and I'm finding this a benefit. We're not wreckless with their safety, but he has helped me see that "exploring" the neighborhood together is a great thing for them to do for maturity and independence, and we agree better than video games!<br /><br />Good luck with the relocation!!!Jersey Diva Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376279675099437740noreply@blogger.com