Today was such a good day! At least it started out that way. Violet slept through the night without her nucki, which she has lost properly (nucki and the spare) and came into my bed for some cuddles shortly before I had to get up. I was productive at work and the morning just flew by. A good day all together, until I was sitting with my coworker, going through some old emails to figure an older case out, when he suddenly asked me if I was pregnant. EXCUSE ME?!?
He explained that a coworker, who he would not named, had asked him about it. When he said that I wasn't, to the best of his knowledge, the anonymous colleague mentioned that I must have just eaten too muc recently.
BANG! I have to admit, I almost started crying. I managed to compose myself, but it seriously ruined my day. I was at a point where I was feeling comfortably about myself, my body. And this delicate construct just crushed within this moment. I know, it's pathetic that I feel that way, that the careless spoken words of this moron can have such an impact on me, but they did. I felt insecure, I almost went out to buy a complete new outfit that very moment., I barely dared to think about food for the rest of the day. And come 4:30 pm, I almost ran out in my uncomfortable shoes to head home.
How comforting it was to just sink in hubby's arms. We talked about it, and he told me that he would have totally supported me slapping the impertinence out of this guy (even though I bet the employee's council would not have supported that course of action, and I kind of need that job right now). I am glad that hubby is so wonderful; just being in his presence makes me calmer, more confident, feel loved for who I am, not who I could be.
I can't wait to curl up next to him tonight, and hope for a better tomorrow!
That stinks! I think I'm more upset that your co-worker mentioned to you what the idiot said. Pretty insensitive. I think some people say nasty things to try and make up for their poor behavior. I'm so sorry this happened. That's happened to me as well, three times in one week, I was asked if I was pregnant and I was mortified. It happened again here a month or so ago. I was in a grocery store and a woman asked me if I was pregnant, I told her...uh no then she says "You have kids though?" ..."yes"..." oh..that's why" and walked off. Yeeeeeaah.
ReplyDeleteHold your head up doll. Don't let creepy people creep into your mind and let them change what you know to be true. You're a beautiful woman, worthy of love and kindness.
Thanks so much, Meredith! It was especially painful because I finally started working out again and started seeing results, and then the low punch. Thanks, douchbag!
DeleteTo be honest, when did it become ok to ask women that? I'm sorry you had to deal with so many very, very rude people! If that had happened to me, I would have curled up crying and not eating anything but lettuce for at least a week..
Seriously, I would NEVER ask a woman that, unless there are other strong indicators (like pregnancy pants when there weren't any before). I had a coworker ask me that before, and she was clearly SO uncomfortable asking me that; good thing was that I was indeed pregnant and just a few days from announcing. But at that point, it was an open secret at the office.
Thank you so much again, for stopping by and your support, Meredith!
WOW!! That is incredibly rude. :(
ReplyDeleteIT definitely is! I was at a loss for words, and that doesn't happen often.. I barely got a NO!! out..
DeleteIt always amazes me how some people can let their tongue flap away without engaging their brain!
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad that you had a loving husband to come home to, who let you know that he loves you as you are :)
I think this person is recently at a chronic lack of brain. Maybe he made it magically disappear during one of his annoying magic tricks he gets on our nerves with at work.. Thank you for your support, Katy! Hubby was really my rock that night!
DeleteWHAT?!?!? How dare ANYONE say something like that!!!! That's just not ok!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Susannah! Exactly my opinion! I really felt like being hit over the head with a log, I must have looked so mortified for a second or so. SO hope that he'll be gone within the next year or so...
DeletePlease, please do, Lizzi! He definitely needs it! He's been getting on my nerves for quite a while now, but this was definitely the tip of te iceberg (other favorites are: 99% of Germans are grossly overweight; You should all let me write out a monthly expense plan for you, I'm SO good at that; I will create a drink of Ayran and vodka and earn millions, etc.) Said person is close to 40, not 14!!
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