We're up to a quite difficult decision here at the moment. Earlier this year, Violet became friends with another little girl. They played together several times, and she actually was the first friend she made independently from Lily. So far, all her friends were the little sisters of Lily's friends, which is fine, but she never had to make an effort so far as to making friends.
So she and the other girl, E., who's about a year older than she is, became friends. We met a few times with the other family, and it was great to see how Violet's self-confidence and independence grew.
In early summer, E. and her mom left to visit her grandparents in Canada for a couple of months. I thought that something was amiss when E. started school in Canada in early September and a few weeks ago, her dad confirmed that they are going to return to North America. Obviously, E.'s mom was not very happy living in Germany, feeling isolated and hindered by the language barrier and when the dad received a good job offer from overseas, they decided to move back to the United States.
In the meantime, Violet keeps asking me every once in a while when she could play again with E. I know that she'll return to Germany sometime in November for a short visit before returning to Canada and then the U.S. permanently. I suppose that the family will probably be busy biding their farewells to quite some people over here, so I wonder if I should still try arrange for a last meeting for the girls.
In the last weeks, Violet hasn't asked for E. any more, and I would hate having her to go through a difficult good-bye; on the other hand, I wonder if it would be worse if she asked me for E. next time and I had to tell her that she wouldn't come back. I was not prepared for a situation like that, as this family were actually "stayers" like us, and think back and forth on what would be the best decision for Violet.